Modesty is one thing that every girl seems to struggle with. Society puts so much pressure to be beautiful. But their idea of beauty is so misguided and messed up. The world pushes girls to dress in a way that exploits how they look. With places like Victoria's Secret, Abercrombie&Fitch, etc., women are always told they have to be skinnier, "hotter", and fit the world's warped idea of beauty. Men, however, often don't want that. I asked two of my best guy friends why they prefer a woman who dresses modestly over one who strives to be like the "beautiful" models from places like those mentioned above.
"I would say that I prefer a girl who dresses modestly because it shows she has confidence in herself meaning in her ability to interest people with her conversation and personality not just her looks. If any guy is actually thinking throughout his situation he'd realize that a modest girl would be one who could be more reasonable and helpful. Dressing modestly shows that you have a great personality rather than just a good body." -John Lann
John brings up a good point. A woman's ability to carry a conversation and be happy and fun is much more important than her looks.
"I'd say dressing modestly simply looks better. I wouldn't even want to be seen walking down a hall with a girl dressed as immodestly as they do today, it'd be embarrassing. The way you dress can tell you a lot about someone. Dressing immodestly shows that you have no self respect and it can tell you what they're interested in. It sends all the wrong messages. It makes a guy look at you the wrong way and their opinion of you changes. It simply lowers your standards and compromises your dignity." -Phil Dougherty
Phil brings up another good point. When we dress immodestly, our dignity gets reduced drastically. When we dress only to get the attention of someone or to "fit in", we lower ourselves. God created us perfectly. We shouldn't want to change anything about ourselves. We are His daughters.
Being beautiful is so much more important that being "hot". And I'm not really even talking about being beautiful on the outside. We should strive to make our souls beautiful. That is what should come first. Inner beauty brings us closer to God. Inner beauty is what makes us people. Our soul is the form of our body. Therefore, our soul is what we should make beautiful. Not our bodies. I'm not saying it's bad to try to look lovely on they outside! It's great to want to look good. It's not most important, though. If we are trying to look good, it's important that we glorify God in the way that we dress.
Guys, I'm gonna talk to you now. Even if you don't have a girlfriend, make an effort to compliment your friends who are girls. There are always days we feel ugly. A few kind words like "you look nice today!" or "Smile! Happy looks good on you" can go a long way. A lot of times, all a girl wants is to be called beautiful, and for a lot of us, we'd rather be called beautiful and not "hot". It sounds weird, because the standards of the world say that you have to be "hot". And especially if you're dating, always call your girlfriend beautiful, especially when SHE feels least beautiful. I've found that sometimes when I think I look terrible, John tells me I look pretty. It's a nice little confidence booster. So make her feel special, loved, and appreciated for who she is. Because a woman should never have to feel that she has to change herself to get you to compliment her or notice her. When you say we look nice it also shows us you cared enough to notice that we put extra effort into looking nice...often for you. It makes us feel important.
Girls, I know it's really hard to be completely comfortable in your bodies, and I know I'm not. But I'm trying to accept myself for who I am and not change who God made me. And you shouldn't either. You are all beautiful. I used to hate hearing that, but the more I think about it, the more true it really seems. You were created in God's perfect image, and in His eyes you are perfect. Honestly, that's all that matters. The state of our souls is infinitely more important than the state of our bodies. Be who God made you. Don't let anyone change who you are. But above all, we have to strive to be daughters of Christ.
God bless you all!!
"I would say that I prefer a girl who dresses modestly because it shows she has confidence in herself meaning in her ability to interest people with her conversation and personality not just her looks. If any guy is actually thinking throughout his situation he'd realize that a modest girl would be one who could be more reasonable and helpful. Dressing modestly shows that you have a great personality rather than just a good body." -John Lann
John brings up a good point. A woman's ability to carry a conversation and be happy and fun is much more important than her looks.
"I'd say dressing modestly simply looks better. I wouldn't even want to be seen walking down a hall with a girl dressed as immodestly as they do today, it'd be embarrassing. The way you dress can tell you a lot about someone. Dressing immodestly shows that you have no self respect and it can tell you what they're interested in. It sends all the wrong messages. It makes a guy look at you the wrong way and their opinion of you changes. It simply lowers your standards and compromises your dignity." -Phil Dougherty
Phil brings up another good point. When we dress immodestly, our dignity gets reduced drastically. When we dress only to get the attention of someone or to "fit in", we lower ourselves. God created us perfectly. We shouldn't want to change anything about ourselves. We are His daughters.
Being beautiful is so much more important that being "hot". And I'm not really even talking about being beautiful on the outside. We should strive to make our souls beautiful. That is what should come first. Inner beauty brings us closer to God. Inner beauty is what makes us people. Our soul is the form of our body. Therefore, our soul is what we should make beautiful. Not our bodies. I'm not saying it's bad to try to look lovely on they outside! It's great to want to look good. It's not most important, though. If we are trying to look good, it's important that we glorify God in the way that we dress.
Guys, I'm gonna talk to you now. Even if you don't have a girlfriend, make an effort to compliment your friends who are girls. There are always days we feel ugly. A few kind words like "you look nice today!" or "Smile! Happy looks good on you" can go a long way. A lot of times, all a girl wants is to be called beautiful, and for a lot of us, we'd rather be called beautiful and not "hot". It sounds weird, because the standards of the world say that you have to be "hot". And especially if you're dating, always call your girlfriend beautiful, especially when SHE feels least beautiful. I've found that sometimes when I think I look terrible, John tells me I look pretty. It's a nice little confidence booster. So make her feel special, loved, and appreciated for who she is. Because a woman should never have to feel that she has to change herself to get you to compliment her or notice her. When you say we look nice it also shows us you cared enough to notice that we put extra effort into looking nice...often for you. It makes us feel important.
Girls, I know it's really hard to be completely comfortable in your bodies, and I know I'm not. But I'm trying to accept myself for who I am and not change who God made me. And you shouldn't either. You are all beautiful. I used to hate hearing that, but the more I think about it, the more true it really seems. You were created in God's perfect image, and in His eyes you are perfect. Honestly, that's all that matters. The state of our souls is infinitely more important than the state of our bodies. Be who God made you. Don't let anyone change who you are. But above all, we have to strive to be daughters of Christ.
God bless you all!!
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